Sunday, January 20, 2013

Questions and Answers


This past week Pauline Phillips died. You probably knew her as Dear Abby. She died of Alzheimer’s disease at age 94. She was the most widely syndicated newspaper columnist in the world. For over 60 years she dispensed answers to people’s most perplexing questions about marriage, children, and jobs. Every question she posted was given a well thought out answer, often times telling people to look within themselves to change instead of expecting the situation to change. She was still “blooming” into her 80’s and sounds like my kind of woman. Her life could be summed up by the following Swedish toast that she liked to quote: “Fear less; hope more. Eat less; chew more. Talk less; say more. Hate less; love more."
This quote speaks to me as a writer. In the art of writing, emphasis is constantly placed on saying more with fewer words and eliminating unnecessary words in all sizes of manuscripts. In other words, don’t be “wordy.” Everything I write can usually be pared down by one-third. The discipline of staying in the allotted word count is a real challenge.
I recently participated in a radio interview about my book, Born Three Times. I was given fifteen minutes to answer questions about my story and I wanted to make every word count. I sweated bullets trying to figure out what the interviewer would ask me. I listened to other interviews done in the same format and heard other writers droning on about what they had written. A fear of doing the same thing motivated me to action. With pen in hand, I came up with six questions that I thought I would be asked and wrote out my answers to those questions. My goal was to “talk less and say more.” There were a few “ums and aahs” when I was surprised by a question I didn’t anticipate. My interview was aired on Toginet.com, an online radio station that posts interviews with new authors. Now I am allowed to use it for my personal use to promote my book. You can hear for yourself how well I did.
To find my interview, click on the Radio Interview tab at the top of this post. Click the black button to start the audio. Thank you for listening and feel free to comment with your thoughts.

Friday, January 4, 2013

Take if Off -- Put it On


Two people that I admire and whose counsel I seek gave me some good advice recently. My doctor advised me “to taste, but not eat” and my pastor spoke to my heart when he told me “what to wear in the New Year.” If I want to continue “blooming” during 2013, I need to follow their wise words.
An unknown author once said, “People are so worried about what they eat between Christmas and the New Year, but they really should be worried about what they eat between the New Year and Christmas.” 
OK, the holidays are over and it is time for me to get with the program. I’ve spent way too much time this past year, sitting at my computer, writing my book, and munching along the way. I never knew that writing is fattening. My memoir, Born Three Times, is published and now I have to get moving to undo the weight gain. My doctor’s advice doesn’t eliminate any food group (I like that part), but is all about portion control—in other words Self-Discipline which is a challenge for me. I have three months to get some weight off and my blood pressure back to normal. It’s a good thing I like lots of veggies and feathers and fins—chicken and fish. I need all the encouragement and support I can get, so please comment below if you are willing to join me in streamlining your body during 2013. 
New Year’s resolutions can be overwhelming, so how about thinking of a daily resolution? I recently found a quote by Henry Moore that speaks to me. He said, “I think in terms of the day's resolutions, not the year's.” My pastor put flesh on that quote during last Sunday’s sermon. His message was from Colossians 3:12-14. 
            “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
It seems overwhelming to clothe myself with those seven virtues, unless I put them on one by one. Seven virtues—Seven days; one virtue each day that I can pray for. I can do that!
Sunday – compassion
Monday – kindness
Tuesday – humility
Wednesday – gentleness
Thursday – patience
Friday – forgiveness
Saturday - love 

My goal is to be the person God wants me to be in 2013. In order to do that, I need to care for both my physical and spiritual health. Consider joining me in this venture.
My book Born Three Times-A New Life, A New Liver, A New Love is available to purchase from several different sources. Please see the How to Order tab at the top of my blog for more information.

 

Thursday, December 20, 2012

I Resolved


Here we are again at the time of the year when we are winding down the past year and planning for the new.  I know—the world is supposed to come to an end tomorrow (according to the Mayan calendar.) I much prefer the Christian calendar that began when Jesus was on earth. He said in Matthew 24:35-36 & 44:
 
“Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will never pass away. No one knows about that day or hour, not even the angels in heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father. So you also must be ready, because the Son of Man will come at an hour when you do not expect him.”

At the beginning of 2012, I made several resolutions and wondered how long it would take me to break them. Here is my score card: finish unpacking from our move—mostly done; organize closets and my office—a work in progress; lose weight and exercise—Forget About It; publish my memoir—YAY, it’s done!

On December 16, I launched my book, Born Three Times, at a book debut and signing event at our church. It was a rainy, messy day but many people braved the weather and came out to support the effort and buy books. Additional books were purchased this past week by others who couldn’t attend. I am so blessed by the response and excited about new opportunities to share my story in 2013. Keep me in mind for speaking engagements at groups where I can tell my story and promote my book next year.

I received the following email from my friend, Neeraj Kamdar, who now lives in Kenya. With his permission, I am quoting his endorsement of my book.

“I just finished reading your book and I’m really amazed. Your story is just unbelievable and I want to thank you for sharing it.  It is going to be a source of inspiration for me when I go through ups and downs in life. It’s amazing to realize how far the world has come since you were a little kid in Burke. Who would have thought that just over a half century later, you would write your memoirs, publish it digitally, and someone in Kenya would download it and read it on an iPad.”

To order your copy, go to the tab at the top of my blog on the right called How to Order. Links are provided for you to download to your eReader or order a soft cover copy. Email me at friedasdixon@gmail.com if you would like a signed copy ($18 for book & postage.)

Please comment below and tell me about your New Year’s resolutions—past and present.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year from Two Late Bloomers,

Charles and Frieda Dixon

 

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

A Lot of Hot Air


We must be blooming idiots to think we could pack so many stressful projects into the most hectic time of the year. But, that is exactly how our December is shaping up.
After waiting months to receive a contract for further wind tunnel testing for his aircraft innovations, Charles finally got the go ahead to test two airplanes before the end of 2012. He recently spent two weeks at the Glenn L. Martin Wind Tunnel in Maryland, a state of the art low speed wind tunnel that has been actively involved in aerodynamic research and development since 1949. The tunnel is located near the College Park Airport, which is known as the “cradle of aviation” and is the world’s oldest continually operating airport. The wind tunnel operations continue the pioneering spirit of the airport in the testing of many past and current aircraft. He and his crew blew a lot of hot air through the tunnel to determine if his innovations will improve aircraft performance. Long days of trial and error achieved successful results which he will further prove in flight tests during 2013.
Everyone tells me the best time to market my new book is during the Christmas gift-giving season. So while he is working on his aviation dream, I am busy sending up trial balloons to find the most effective way to promote, Born Three Times.

Trial Balloon 1-Plan a Book Signing:   
My book debut and first signing will be on December 16, 2012 from 3:00-5:00 pm, at Towne View Baptist Church, 1115 Shiloh Road, Kennesaw, GA 30144. Please come if you are in the area.
Trial Balloon 2-Record a Radio Interview:
In the next few days, I will be recording a radio interview about my book and why I wrote it, which will air on Internet Radio. As soon as I learn the details, I will send them on to you. 

Trial Balloon 3-Encourage People to Buy my Book: 
See the “How to Order” tab above for all the details about ordering a soft cover edition or E-book download for your Kindle, Nook, or other electronic reader. 

Whew I am tired just thinking about it all and I need a better perspective. I have decided that no matter which way the wind blows with our earthly projects during the month of December, both of us need to take a deep breath and look for the real reason for the Christmas season. I am reminded of Jesus’ words to Nicodemus in the Gospel of John. “The wind blows wherever it pleases. You hear its sound, but you cannot tell where it comes from or where it is going. So it is with everyone born of the Spirit.” (John 3:8). Now that is a real breath of fresh air!

Friday, November 16, 2012

It's A Book !

I have just given birth—at least it feels like it. After a whole lot longer than nine months, my baby was delivered by Fed EX. The first copy of my memoir arrived this week. Born Three Times—A New Life, A New Liver, A New Love is my life story telling of my struggles and challenges and God’s grace in giving me His gift of second chances. I am excited about sharing it all with you in the hope that you will find it inspirational.  
The writing process took on a life of its own and proved to be a bigger challenge than I first thought. At first I struggled to find a common theme around which to tell my story. As I prayed about what God wanted me to say, it came to me that God had charted my path throughout my life even when I was not looking for His guidance. As I relived and wrote about many painful experiences, I saw them through completely different eyes, and a story of hope and God’s amazing grace began to emerge. It was a liberating experience. 
The publishing process was equally daunting. I learned that traditional publishing houses very seldom choose to invest in memoirs by unknown authors. The self-publishing route was my best option. I investigated several companies and ended up choosing Inspiring Voices–a Division of Guidepost Magazine. They were great to work with as I navigated the difficult tasks of formatting and editing. Choosing the cover was the most challenging. It needed to tell my life story at a glance. Praise the Lord, I found it! I was thrilled to find the picture of a sunrise taken from an airplane that shows the curvature of the earth.
To me, the photo said: After a long night - a new day breaks forth filled with God-given opportunities.  Now for the fun part, sharing my story with all of you and with people I have yet to meet. This late bloomer writer thanks all of you for your encouragement as I have worked through this process.
My first book signing will be Sunday, December 16 from 3:00 to 5:00 pm at Towne View Baptist Church, 1115 Shiloh Road, Kennesaw, GA 30144. I would love to see you in person if you live in the area.
Born Three Times is available at www.inspiringvoices.com (go to bookstore and then new releases.) Also on www.amazon.com in soft back and ebook formats (enter my name Frieda S. Dixon in the search box.)  

http://www.amazon.com/Born-Three-Times-Life-Liver/dp/1462403875/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1353163578&sr=8-1&keywords=frieda+s+dixon
   

Thursday, November 1, 2012

Young at Heart

As we age we all have a choice to make. Are we going to act “Old as Dirt” or “Young at Heart?” Granted there are some days when I feel like the former, but the Young at Heart days come around often enough to make up for those bad days. For the past few years, Charles and I have dressed up like Raggedy Ann & Andy for our church’s Fall Family Fun Fair. Since we don’t look like Power Rangers or Super Heroes, fewer and fewer children recognize our costumes. I think their parents enjoy our costumes the most. We enjoy playing games with the kids at the fair and handing our candy. We love living in our active senior adult community, but one of the things I miss is the kids coming around for trick or treat on Halloween. I guess we’ll have to eat all the candy I bought.
I’m reminded of a funny joke that appeared in a recent issue of Reader’s Digest:
“I was feeling pretty creaky after hearing the TV reporter say, "To contact me, go to my Facebook page, follow me on Twitter, or try me the old-fashioned way—e-mail."
Since you are tech savvy enough to follow my blog, I know that you are a Young at Heart person. Keep up the good work and follow the Biblical admonition from Proverbs 17:22.
"A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a broken spirit saps a person's strength." (New Living Translation-2007)

Thursday, October 18, 2012

A Port in the Storm

I get seasick faster than you can say “All Aboard” when I get on a cruise ship. I know it’s not all in my head, since I got sick on our honeymoon cruise to Bermuda sixteen years ago. Last week, without leaving dry land, we took another cruise of sorts when Charles and I spent six days with seafarers from all over the world.
We, along with three others seniors from our church, drove to New Orleans (N’awlins) to work with the staff of Global Maritime Ministries. “Global Maritime Ministries exists to provide holistic Christian ministry by meeting the spiritual, emotional, and physical needs of seafarers and maritime workers.”1 Our main purpose in going was to support the hospitality efforts of the small, dedicated staff that works at the ministry center. We served fruit, cookies, and brownies to cargo ship seafarers and provided lunch for the cruise ship staff from at least fifteen different countries. Workers from India, Bulgaria, Turkey, Ukraine, Philippines, Romania, Bali, Zimbabwe, Nepal, Taiwan, South Korea, Peru, Nicaragua, South Africa, and Indonesia came through the doors. All the world’s major religions and languages were represented by those men and women.
The maritime center serves as a “port in the storm” since it provides a safe, wholesome environment away from the ship for the few hours the ships are in port. A ministry shuttle bus picks up the seafarers at the ships and ferries them to Wal-Mart or the Center. Most visitors immediately run to the computers, plug in their earphones, power up their smart phones, and log onto Skype so that they can contact their families back home and catch up with world events on the internet. It will be many months before they will get to see their loved ones on their home turf. After an hour or so, they drift over to enjoy the free goodies and engage in conversation with us. Occasionally one will ask, “How much is the cost.” Everyone smiles when we explain, “It’s free, just like God’s love for you.”
Many opportunities for service are available to seniors. A mission trip, while tiring, does not have to mean going overseas. It could just be in your neighborhood, or a neighboring state. It’s just a matter of finding the place that God wants you to serve.